Sad is the society that spends so much to employ so many, who are really spending their time busting massage parlors for $10,000 here and there. You spend your day planning to bust a massage girl or owner. In the big picture, does that make you a man?

I’d rather see it all busted up, because then we’d have black markets and underground would be the norm, so everyone would see how life really is. And guess what… we’d do the same things, and the corrupt authorities would be busy once again trying to fix real problems.

To the cop or lawyer or even judge spending his days in the corrupt system, I feel sorry for you. But in the end it is only up to you how you live your life before you get cancer and die. No excuses… you lived the way you lived.

I’m also in favor of decriminalizing acts that are labelled as prostitution. However, currently most states define “prostitution” broadly as any sex act including even touching of private parts. Those acts definitely violate massage license standards in most states. Although it’s plausible that an AMP owner or worker to deny that sexual conduct for a fee occurs at their establishment…..no one that reads this blog would buy that if they were on a jury that heard one of these cases. I’m not judging you Missy. The reality of it is is that there is legal risk in this line of work. We’re not currently in a climate that allows AMP’s to work around loopholes that they previously had been allowed to. Now the loopholes are being exploited by the other side. I know this from personal experience. I’ve seen the massage business from both sides of the door. Then one day that door got kicked in by local police, ICE, and the FBI. I experienced first hand a glock in my face as I awake from a sound sleep, an arraignent, the startling realization that all the cash in my safe deposit box was gone (as well as every dime in every bank acount my name was on), and an 18 month long wait to see if I was going to jail for 4 years or not. I didn’t btw, but testament to the point Missy was making is that it cost me $40k roughly to plea it down from felony mandatory time to a criminal misdemeanor.

Now I’m not liberal about most things. However you need to know that along with digital communication technology, the Patriot Act is the biggest enemy of the massage business (well maybe besides majong and baccarat , and scornful workers/owners ). You gals are typically from lands other than ours here. Most of you phone and wire money home to folks in your homelands. This automacically opens you up to wanton surveillance of your international activities, or so it may be articulated in an affadavit for search warrant. And yes I will mention casinos here. I know many a massage girl with the penchant for betting bank against a long player run. That rewards card that you get points on also tracks your money exchanged for chips. When it hits $10k it’s reported to the IRS. RICO statutes also allow the IRS to forward concern to the FBI. The FBI is also conducting those sweeps 2-3 times a year supposedly targetting underage girls. 95 percent of the people busted are girls that use CL to advertise massage services. The cards are stacked against you right now.

It used to be that a “happy ending” was a dirty little secret held by a few. Now….AMP’s are popping up like Dunkin Donuts in some cities. It’s become too mainstream. My advice….go underground….like the speak easies during prohibition. Close the spas and make them clubs. No more neon lights. No more advertising in the local liberal rags…those same bastions of freedom of speech will have to turn over any information they have on their clients if a search warrant has been granted. Definitely don’t talk about business on your phone. Limit the number of places diplomatically among yourselves…don’t be so greedy.

Maybe we won’t agree on this, but I think you know there is some truth in what I have said. Be careful. It’s open season on the massage business. It’s time to get creative. It’s time to evolve. Only those that adapt will survive.

Sex is one of the most natural things in the world. I’m pretty sure it’s obvious that I think that way from my many posts on your sites.
And I’ve seen my share of angry women, Korean or not, for a lifetime so I’ll leave the discussion at that.
Go back to my previous comments (there’s a few) on your blogs and tell me that I’m not supporting you and in overwhelming agreement.
I hope others have enjoyed them, because they’ve clearly been lost on you.

Good luck to you, Missy.

I disagree. You have to go way back, to before there were puritan religious etc. inhibitions about sex. When humans were animals… seeking food, safety, and sex. Two humans next to each other, safe and fed, would have sex. No unnatural inhibitions.

In that case, if he was needy and she was not, would she deliver a hand release? Of course… especially is it kept him calm/sane/devoted/around. Providing for the man who keeps the peace and comes around once in a while with food, helps keep shelter, helps the community, etc etc etc.

Note: Missy went totally off when she read that, and I’ve done my best to condense it here into a meaningful comment. Trust me when I say she’s livid at the idea that providing isn’t natural, or is in some way a necessary evil some women choose to accept. If you’ve ever had a crazy Korean screaming at you through the phone, you know what I’ve just been through for like 20 minutes! Glad I’m far far away and out of her physical reach! If you guys go mongering tomorrow, be careful what you say to your korean hottie just in case it’s missy!

Your angry reaction, normal as it is, is however counterproductive. You’re smart and articulate (or have access to articulate friends). Since you can’t change the way things are (a freaking revolution couldn’t change human nature, honey), why don’t you do what smart people do and find loopholes and backdoors to get satisfaction?
If this was a perfect world, I think very few women would jerk strange men off for money. We all know it isn’t.

Now every big city has liberal papers and free rags eager to settle scores with people in positions of power. The only way to get their attention is to work the “poor immigrant feminist up against a corrupt and patriarchal system” angle.
Talk about “whores” the media can be part of the problem (as when “investigative” reporters go “undercover” in massage parlors to titillate the public) or the solution ( if you get them on your side).

Because of your occupation and travels, and of your blogging activities, you’re in the unique position of taking point on this and speak for the “little guy”: these women, often immigrant, sometimes illegal, always uneducated and taken advantage of.

I don’t know whether it’s something you’d want to take on, but somebody should really expose the gigantic hypocrisy of our society towards sex workers.
The owner and masseuse of your story are but two victims of this witch hunt where, as you say, the mere accusation from a cop (who probably didn’t get the LE discount he wanted) is enough to get them burnt at the stake (criminal record, embarrassment, financial ruin, etc.).

Something needs to change, yes. We need legalization and regulation of prostitution.